Alice, thank you for your kind words, warm welcome, and for creating this important space in the world!
Your leadership, like your speaking gift, is oh-so-apparent. We're all fortuned that you're courageously stepping into both. And YAY, Bruce, for supporting with his video skills! My vids have been very low-fuss... record on the embedded camera on my Macbook Pro, fiddle around with iMovie, and then upload to YouTube. A good quality camera, as Bruce has, will make a beautiful difference for your viewers. I can't wait!!
Thanks for your warm comments and for the tip about Robin Grille. I will put in a link in my website to promote yours and his work.
My proposal for an initial transformation rests on three pillars, which will open the door for change activities throughout society, namely 1) the balancing of egocentric messages through company advertising, with empathic messages that promotes a long-term life-affirming society, 2) national information campaign and an organized popular movement concerning a new empathic social system 3) new core subject in school called “empathy”.
Thus, empathy in school is for me a very crucial factor. I have some youtube clips on LEARN that talk about this, for example Ken Robinson, Goldie Hawn, Carol Engler, Mary Gordon, Children full of life, and Raymond Mar.
If you like my website I will be happy if you spread the link.
I'm just starting to set things up and will then put out a call to our 20,000 or so people that are signed up for all the various empathy causes, facebook pages, etc, to see if there are people that would like to support this effort. I'm working on how to set up a collaborative project like this and get people involved in it. It's sort of a Empathy and compassion curriculum wiki.
If you want to search the site you can just use Google advanced search feature.
A new project I am just starting on is to create an online empathy curriculum. I'm setting up the infrastructure for that now. I'd like to gather all the different curriculum out there that teach empathy and compassion and combine them into a publicly available curriculum that can be continuously improved and deepened. The first step is to list all the different approaches. Perhaps you and your community would like to join the effort? The first step is to list and organize the different types of programs of curriculum that foster empathy.
from a quick look, Inner Bonding may be one of those processes,, looks like it's geared toward self-empathy.
I've been funding the work from my savings.. I do need to look into getting funding, like you say, I've got the website to the point where I have something to show now. Getting a track record..
Yeah, we're doing community organizing, collecting material, shooting video, creating a network, creating an empathy portal, curating our Empathy Cafe Magazine, doing video interviews, building empathy causes on facebook, etc, etc. All working to build a movement for a culture of empathy. A lot to do.
I'm trying to figure out how to collaborate effectively with others on this. How do we all work together so that the whole of our work is greater than the sum of the parts? One project we're starting is an online empathy curriculum. Bring all the various modalities together into a general curriculum online that anyone can use. That raises the question of how to do effective community group collaboration on a project like that. Motivations, tools, etc
yes, lets keep in touch, and see how we can build a culture of empathy.
The Center for Building a Culture of Empathy A portal for resources and information about the values of empathy and compassion. http://CultureOfEmpathy.com
Hi Alice and the Empathy mob,
We're now in August! Not long for you to experience the Parenting Heart2Heart training with Robin!
I really love the fact that we ALL can come from the heart... not just the guru's who have studied up on this stuff! I just watched a TED video...
...it's so true! What ever job we do in this world, if done with empathy, it comes from a place of wisdom. Barry Schwartz says something like, 'we aren't born with wisdom, we acquire it.'
When thinking about the responsibility parents have and the difference they can make to the future generations... WOW!!! It's HUGE!!!!
I've been in parenting education now for many years. I can honestly say that since reading Parenting for a Peaceful World and Heart to Heart Parenting, which led me to facilitate 7 x 6-week Heart2Heart groups already - the EASE of 'feeling the process from my heart' has changed my mind about 'parental responsibility'. Actually, it's not in my mind any more... it's in my heart.
It gives me such a depth of satisfaction to see - not just me but our other parent facilitators and participants in our groups, move from the head to the heart.... and just love. WOW!!!! Those oxytocins are better than anything that comes from a bottle!!!
I wish you all the very best of everything you experience in Robin's training.
Much love to the WHOLE group,
from Sofi xo
The principle reference for empathy based psychoanalysis is the work of Heinz Kohut. A contemporary book, by Lee etal is "The Five Postulates" - a great way of understanding the application of the empathy based psychoanalytic process.
Thanks also for your comments on Transformational Learning Australia. Yes, we do train coaches - although presently it's a timing issue in terms of getting a training program like that up and running. Our present focus is on an empathy based program for teenagers and the development of our e-book on empathy based parenting which we're in the process of launching.
I'd be happy to put some more information on the network - and I'm looking forward to hearing more of what everyone is up to.
Finally, yes, I received an email re Robin's training via the Australian Association of Somatic Psychotherapists - and then found the link to this website. It's nice to find.
It would be a pleasure to have you visit the school. Please contact me to let me know when you would be in the region. We are keen to make meaningful affiliations with other organisations as we grow as a school.
Go for it Alice.... what goes round comes round! I'm getting good feedback from health care professionals with young families who understand the background research and want to 'try it on for size' to see how well it fits their own families.
What I'm loving is watching how this 'one size' moulds, shapes and forms to fit all relationships!
take good care... love from Sofi
Thanks for your message, and welcome, it is so lovely to feel connected to people even without meeting them.
I am realy looking forward to the course and meeting like minded people. I am really pleased you have a full house, and will certainly spread the word.
I am cant wait to get Robin's books and have ordered them through ABC and they are ready for me to collect. Any one out there who has any other great reads please let me know.
Great to hear that your training with Robin Grille in Macedon is fully booked! Together we'll grow joyous families in our communities, throughout Australia and beyond...
Good news from Byron Bay... CARE Parent Support is over the moon because we've been given approval to hold 4 x 6-week Parenting Heart2Heart groups per school term - FREE!!!
We're all having so much fun with Heart2Heart! There's a kind of osmosis happening - parents dropping the 'worry' of responsibility and finding their playfulness.
Mums and Dads are expressing the love of 'speaking and acting with emotional authenticity'. We give them permission to 'release emotionally' through exercises in the group. They feel the relief for them selves and are much more understanding the relief their toddlers and children must feel through simply 'tantrum-ing' with their whole body.
Can you imagine what a relief and sense of connection toddlers must feel when their parents actually allow them to physically release any emotion in the way their little body tells them?!!! Funny how kids and parents end up laughing together - intrinsically feeling the release of build-up and relaxing into laughter.
Aaaaaagh... we're all just loving it!!! Sofi
I cannot make your evening next month in Clovelly unfortunately, I have another NVC engagement.
The link websites are www.nvcaustralia.com
I have been using Empathy in my work as a faccilitator in many fields -
Working with people in Juvenile Justice, mediation, parenting, schools, organisations ( like aged care) , and open groups and communities.
I believe that the most powerful place I use empathy is with myself and all the "enemy images" and cultural layering I am finding within me.
I look forward to keeping up with where your project is headed.
I have already shared this link with a few others.
perhaps we can cross pollinate if that works mutually.
Yes I am an Early Childhood Teacher, and new to the position of Director after working with Maria for the past 9 years. She is always so passionate about empathy and I am looking forward to the evening at Clovelly soon.
I thought I would try the comment wall instead of the email! I have read through the first two parts of Robin's book so far, and yes it has been a challenging read for me. Some of the chapters on the history of childhood were very confronting for me to read - but in another way, validating and opening. I have always looked so deeply into how my upbringing was influenced by my parents upbringing and the generation before, and the generation before that - in egypt and australia...and I can see how, as these modes of parenting have changed...the degree/aspect of abuse has changed...how important it is, and how potentially for my family, in my generation we are attempting the first ever round of the "helpful" mode of parenting...gosh, you know - I so deeply relate to the lack of empathy in a parent that has themselves had a harsh and unempathic upbringing - especially, the two points where Robin summarises what we can learn from the history of childhood that "alongside the parenting instinct, there is also a strong tendency for parents to safeguard their own equilibrium; to lighten the parental load by ignoring or downplaying children's needs. Sometimes this impulse takes the shape of violent rejection, or outright neglect....emotionally immature parents will attempt to satisfy their un-met emotional, physical and even sexual needs through their children". - got it in one Robin! As much as I hate the word "survivor" - I think this book is essential reading for all survivors of child abuse. It can feel like such hard work to carry new consciousness! I've found this book can ease the sense of isolation that arises from time to time!